The Problem is Rarely the Problem

I became a coach because I like to fix things. I like to talk. I get energy from helping. And I generally like other people.

The Problem You Present to Your Coach

What I have found is that the problem is rarely the problem. Instead, it's the person's opinion of the problem that gets presented to us. What are we trying to solve? Do you really help people solve the problem presented? I don't think so.

For example, it feels good to clean it, to alter it, to paint it differently, but does that change what we have? Changing the filter through which we see can be enough. We exchange the lens.

The Hard Part

As a coach, we lead with our resume, which cites all the resources for you to jump at, but the middle is the juicy part.

How often are coaching clients asking for help with elements that are completely self-inflicted? Many problems are the result of avoiding discomfort.

As a coach, I must ask myself if I am strong enough to say, “You are the problem.” I am also going to tell you, “I am the solution.”

As a coach, you might be paying me. We are not here to make friends, though. I am here to help, and that requires saying the hard part out loud.